Breaking Up With Your Ideal Self: Over at Darling Today

Denmark is the happiest nation in the world—according to studies—and researchers attribute Danes’ happiness to having low expectations in life. In other words, Danes have a non-idealized way of looking at the world. The happiness killer isn’t having ideals. Rather, it’s the power we give them. We can either be inspired by or imprisoned by our ideals—and the choice is ours.

The word ideal can be defined as:
1. Existing as a mental image or in fancy or imagination only; broadly: lacking practicality
2. A standard of perfection, beauty, or excellence
3. Of, relating to, or embodying an ideal

Since the age of twelve an ever-widening chasm between my life ideal and my reality has loomed over me. The daughter of successful parents with a mother who fed me motivational quotes and self-help books as if they were milk, I’ve always been a dreamer, a goal setter and a somewhat obsessive list-maker. Deep-seated insecurity has been the fuel driving many of my lofty, unmet goals.

Continue reading over at Darling. Hope it inspires you to live authentically!
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  • Reply Meg September 13, 2013 at 3:08 am

    Allie, I wanted to say that I really enjoyed this piece you wrote. I’m so glad I’m not the only one who has had an unrealistic, unattainable “ideal self” that I have created for myself. For me – I realized that I created this ideal self as a way to avoid being present — present with who i am NOW and what my life looks like now. Your writing was a good reminder to me to always be present — which means being present in my imperfect, messy, complicated, and also GREAT LIFE!

    Thanks for being so inspired and honest in your writing as always. I always so appreciate reading your words.

  • Reply abigail louise October 13, 2013 at 4:40 am

    love this! you are darling!

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