“We are always getting ready to live but never living.–Ralph Waldo Emerson”
When’s the last time you thought, “Once I get that job I’ll be happy” or “Once I meet that guy I’ll be happy” or “ Once I fill-in-the-blank I’ll be happy?”
In his book “Happier,” Tal Ben-Shahar calls this the arrival fallacy – the belief that when you arrive at a certain destination, you’ll finally be content or happy.
The problem is no matter what goal we achieve or what feat we tackle, there is something in us that makes us feel as though we will never arrive. Often times when we accomplish a particular goal we are faced with new challenges or we set our sights on a new, loftier one. We’ll buy that perfect outfit, but then spill coffee on it or get tired of it and covet a new pair of leather boots. We think goals, possessions, or relationships will complete us when they were never intended to.
Read the rest of my article over at Darling.